Take Action!

These tips and tools are for you to consider, adapt or reject – find ideas
to support your family’s path to healthy tech use.


Scaffold Smartphones

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THE 16-YEAR CARSEAT-TO-DRIVER ANALOGY

It takes 16 years before a child is ready for the driver’s seat. Why shouldn’t we think through an analogous process or scaffolding to introduce phones to our children?

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TIPS WHILE DELAYING SMARTPHONES

This list of suggestions and talking points was compiled based on conversations with local families.

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SCAFFOLD PHONE ACCESS FOR YOUNG PEOPLE

Consider letting the line out a little bit at
a time. This visual is a suggested
scaffolding – you can enter it wherever
you want, depending on how old your
kids are and your family values or needs.  

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WAIT UNTIL (AT LEAST) 8TH GRADE FOR SMARTPHONES

If you'd like to be connected to other parents from your grade and school who are delaying giving their children smartphones until at least 8th grade (flip phones are ok!), you can sign the Wait Until 8th pledge to join this larger movement.


Healthy Tech Use for All Ages

We suggest a three-pronged approach: (1) recognizing that as parents and educators we are modeling behavior; (2) setting family and school rules for digital usage; and (3) digital mentorship of our children.



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Step 1: Check yourself - Model Good behavior

Let’s face it - actions speak louder than words! Model the tech use behavior you would like to see in your child(ren). It starts with self-awareness of your own use.

  • If you have an iPhone: update your operating system to iOS 12 to take advantage of Apple’s new Screen Time feature (located in ‘settings’), which increases users’ self-awareness of their digital habits. It also allows you to manage usage of family members. Read Delaney Ruston’s (filmmaker, Screenagers movie) overview of Screen Time’s features.


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Step 2: SET FAMILY RULES

To set your family up for success, set parameters for media usage. Here are some favorite publicly-available samples of media agreements:


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Also: SUPPORT YOUR SCHOOL’S POLICIES

Did you know that Mill Valley Middle School (MVMS) has an “Away for the Day” school policy? This means students are not allowed to access or use personal phones or devices during school hours.

The following excerpt is from the MVMS policy handbook:

Unplug and Tune-in to Others: While we are a 1:1 iPad school, it is important that students take a break and balance their technology use. All personal electronic devices (personal iPad, iPhone, iWatch, cell phone, etc.) must be turned-off and in backpacks from 8:35 - 2:50 (2:28 on Wed) and school iPads are not permitted during recess, lunch, and passing periods. While we do open the library for lunch, students will not be allowed to use their iPads in the library during this time. Lunch is a great time for students to grab something to eat, talk with their friends, play on the field and blacktop, get some exercise, participate in intramurals, join a club, and enjoy being outside.


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Step 3: Be An Active Digital Mentor

 

Consider How Your Family Uses Media

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Is your family using screen media more frequently as a way station or a destination?

  • Using screen media as a way station includes: texting friends or using social media to coordinate a get-together (e.g., to meet up at a park to play pick-up soccer); spreading word about an event or issue; communicating logistics with many people quickly (e.g., coordinating a carpool).

  • Using screen media as a destination may look like: spending your evening on social media - scrolling, posting and commenting; spending your night watching YouTube videos; spending hours alone playing video games “with friends.”

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Is your family using screen media more frequently for production or consumption?

  • Production includes: researching a topic, issue, or recipe; writing a paper, article, book, or letter; creating a PowerPoint presentation; collaborating with peers via Google Docs; making an iMovie about a topic; learning and practicing skills (math facts, learning a language, etc); coordinating details for an event; creating music, art, coding, etc.

  • Consumption looks more like: playing video games; scrolling through social media; watching Netflix or YouTube.

 
 

FIND High Quality
Age-Appropriate Content

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Common Sense Media helps families make informed media choices by offering “the largest, most trusted library of independent age-based and educational ratings and reviews for movies, games, apps, TV shows, websites, books, and music.”

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Smartfeed curates a custom list of recommended media options for your child based on a profile you set up “with his/her interests, character traits or values you’d like to focus on, and academic areas you want to reinforce.”


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TIPS FOR HEALThy SMARTPHONE HABITS

This list of tips was compiled based on conversations with pioneering parents ahead of us, and after hearing about some of the stickier issues for local families.  These tips are for you to consider, adapt or reject – maybe there will be a useful nugget for you!


Foster Unplugged Activities and Relationships

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Screen-FREE ACTIVITIES FOR RESTAURANTS AND WAITING ROOMS

Tried and true device-free and portable alternatives for keeping your kids busy when being present isn’t an option.

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IMPORTANT NON-SCREEN ACTIVITIES AND RELATIONSHIPS

Food for thought: instead of framing the conversation around screen time limits, perhaps we should focus on preserving and fostering non-screen activities and relationships that we know are developmentally important (and are often displaced by screen time). Before allowing recreational screen use, consider the following:

  1. Has my child been physically active for at least one hour today?

  2. Has my child free-played without a screen today? Or had the opportunity to overcome boredom?

  3. Has my child interacted face-to-face with friends today?

  4. Has my child been outdoors today?

  5. Has my child had the chance to curl up with a book?

  6. Is my child getting sufficient sleep for his/her age?