Simple Phones & Watches
We encourage families to delay mobile phones as long as possible and then take it slowly. As parents, there may come a time when we want to be able to communicate with our kids on the go, but we also want to avoid unnecessary risks, harms, and nonstop distractions so our kids are safe and healthy. No mobile communication options are perfect, but we do have some choice.
To help parents understand the options and choose the least amount of tech to meet changing communication needs, we created a matrix that outlines the range of current options. The phones and watches below allow your child to stay in touch (with Grandma!) while avoiding unnecessary risks and needless distractions.
The matrix above shows several alternatives ranging from no mobile phone to a stripped-down iPhone. The toggle icons (in black or green) indicate additional features that can be enabled or turned off, depending on the product.
Basic features like calling and texting can meet the communication needs of children and families, and many products can be set up without additional features and apps that often become an unhelpful distraction. Keep in mind Apple iPhones are designed for adults, so they require an increased level of understanding and management to keep kids safe.
When we say simple, this is what we mean…
OK
on phone or watch:
Talk & Text
Video calls
Location Services
Basic Tools
like map, weather, calendar,
essential health monitors
NOT YET
on phone or watch:
Social media:
like Instagram,
Snapchat, TikTok, & Discord
YouTube
Internet browser
Video games
When it comes to kids and phones, our top suggestions to parents are:
Take it slowly. Very, very slowly. Delay mobile phones and smartwatches as long as you can. Having a landline is a great delay tactic!
Keep it simple! More apps and features on a mobile device means MORE parenting for you plus more distraction and risk for your child. Delay unnecessary features - determine the essential need you’re trying to address, and provide the minimum tech to meet that need but nothing more. For example, if the need is to communicate with parents and friends, roll out a phone or watch that enables calling and texting only. Think outside the box - if your child only needs to be reachable occasionally, consider starting with a “mobile home phone” that your child “checks out” for occasional purposes.
Set up any phone or smartwatch for a young user before handing it over to your child. Most phones are set up by default for adults, not kids. If you’re considering an iPhone, watch how to set up a barebones iPhone for a child.
Find inventive ways to take collective action so it’s easier to meet basic communication needs while avoiding harm. For example, see if parents around you want to get the same Tin Can landline or pick the same basic phone or smartwatch so herd mentality flips toward the greater good!
Together let’s reclaim childhood for its developmental purpose: to play, be outdoors, develop life skills and competence, and spend time IRL with other people. A phone should be a helpful tool to support these goals, not displace them.
For more guidance around this topic visit our page on Giving a First Phone.
ADDITIONAL RESOURCES
If your child has an iPhone you want to simplify, watch our tutorial about how to reel in access and remove apps from your child’s iPhone. This video explains how to remove the Internet, video games, social media, and even the App Store. In short, you can make an iPhone into a simple phone.
Explore more details about phone and smartwatch alternatives via these links from our allies:
From Turning Life On: updated comparisons of various options, including prices
From Wait Until 8th: short blurbs about various smartphone alternatives
From author Catherine Price: a blog dedicated to smartphone alternatives
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Kids IRL (in real life) is a Marin County-wide coordinated effort to keep digital tech in check and roll it out more slowly to our children - so screens don’t crowd out essential childhood activities. By changing local norms together, we reduce pressure on parents and kids, protect our children’s mental health, and improve family life.
Where to Next?
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Kids IRL Phone Pact
Commit to basic phones until high school - as a community!
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